The Art of Rejections, How to Heal Your Bruised Ego
“As long as the morning dew still drips, the flowers in the garden will not wither”
Dannu, Medium — This snippet of the quotes, which is widely used as self-encouragement, turns out to have a very deep meaning. Logically and rationally, will never stop the morning dew been dripping unless the last day of this world comes. In the context of meaning, morning dew was created not only for flowers, but also for all elements who enjoy the morning glow.
Speaking of the quotes, there is an implied meaning that never gives up, because even the flowers in the garden don’t do that. Even though he can’t move to find water, he will find its source from something he never expected. Dew, so one source of life when everything seems impossible.
Just like flowers, humans also need a source of livelihood. Whether it’s clothing, food, or board. Furthermore, human life is not only about the physical, but also about feelings.
Not a few of them are affluent in terms of physicality, but will not feel. Some fell because of rejection, but others tried to rise from the loss.
We know and agree that actually, not all what we want can be realized, one of which is by having someone’s feelings and their hearts. It is not uncommon for rejection to be obtained rather than from the acceptance which becomes self-expectation.
Many people also feel that rejection is a definite answer. But it can’t be denied, not answering is an answer anyway.
Because they feel hung up on not getting an answer, they wait until a definite answer is given. So Sad.
Forms of Rejection Other than Through Verbal
Rejection is actually a condition where they feel uncomfortable about what they feel. They do not feel the match between taste and mind. Some definitions are positions where someone is not in the place and time. The most relevant example is when we are reject to touch the air in the early morning because the cold seeps up to our heads. Rejections will be one form of change other than verbal.
The form of rejection is not only through the word NO or a shake of the head. With her not giving a real answer it was an answer. Self-doubt is a basic rejection of why he doesn’t want to accept. Naturally, if many people are asked about feelings, they need time to provide answers.
Not without a reason, the absence of conformity with self and acceptance makes the rejection appear. But gradually when the answer is in accordance with self-sensitivity, he will answer with YES as acceptance or NO as verbal rejection.
According to a science, accepting rejection does hurt well. Research conducted by Michigan University, they found unusual activity in the brain when hearing rejection. So, it’s natural if you accept rejection makes you sad. But it’s not natural if you get worse because of the rejection. Remember, “As long as the morning dew still drips, the flowers in the garden will not wither”.
Heals your Wounds Due to Rejection
The wound due to rejection has been mentioned by the famous psychologist Guy Winch through his book Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts.
In the book, it is discussed, the fastest way to heal the bruised due to rejection is by SELF-CONSCIOUSNESS. It takes a long time to find acceptance in rejection. The best medicine for treating ego pain from rejection is to tell yourself that rejection is an acceptance process but in a different way.
By accepting rejection, it will not only change you but also change other people. If you are strong, it will be an illustration that rejection is only a small thing from failure to accept.*** (Handy Dannu Wijaya, Medium)
